Wives, submit yourself unto your own husband…..this statement along with others is often used when talking about the role of the wife in the marriage.
Sometimes, it is very sad to note, that in many Christian circles, it seems like when the roles in families are discussed, the focus is always ” wives submit! Wives MUST submit!”
Now there is no getting around this. Wives are to submit. But the question is ” What does the word submission mean?”
– set in array under (Young’s Analytical Concordance)
– A Greek military term meaning “to arrange [troop divisions] in a military fashion under the command of a leader”. In non-military use,it was “a voluntary attitude of giving in, cooperating, assuming responsibility, and carrying a burden”.
And so, wives are to VOLUNTARILY give in to and cooperate with their husbands taking up their responsibilities in the family.
“as it is fit in The Lord”
Now what does this mean? “..fit in the Lord?”
Fit in The Lord:
fitting , right, to come up to,
It is right in the Lord for wives to submit. But there is a right way for wives to submit in the Lord.
Our first duty is to honour and obey God. The bible plainly tells us that there is only one righteous and that is God. This means that there is only one who will always make the right choice. We are to follow Him and reflect His character to everyone. If husbands are in error, should wives follow? Indeed not. For our first duty is to God.
2 Corinthians 5:10
For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each one may be recompensed for his deeds in the body, according at to what he has done, whether good or bad.
What we do, the choices that we make- we are all accountable for them. A wife cannot come to God and say, ” Well Lord, I am not guilty, my husband is. I just followed him in doing the wrong thing, but I was submitting.” That is not how it works. Wives are free individuals who are free to choose right or wrong; free to choose to serve and obey God and not a man.
And so let us pray for wives, that we accept our part to submit in our marriages. Let us pray that we understand that true submission to our husbands cannot be done if we are disobey God by following our husband’s wrong lead. True submission to our husbands is about FIRST doing the will of God in obeying Him. This is the only way a wife can truly submit to her husband.
Next week we will look at the term “duty to God”.
Is it something we have to do because we are legally obligated to do it?
How will learning about true submission to God affect a wife’s submission to her husband?