Have you ever heard the saying that women usually choose to date and then marry men like their fathers? I have, and at first I thought it was not true. But as I got older and was able to see a lot more relationships and read about a lot more relationships, I have learnt that there is a tremendous amount of truth in this statement.
A woman indeed typically chooses a man like the man modeled to her throughout her life. This is a strange thing we call “cycles“. In situations where women grew up in families where their fathers were abusive, they usually end up with someone who is abusive.
We usually notice the negative aspect of “cycles” and many children often remark that they intend to break the cycle that they grew up seeing.
Today, we are not focusing on children choosing to break these cycles.
Today, we are focusing on fathers choosing to set a ” positive cycle” in motion for their daughters to follow in.
If you want your daughters to marry a God-fearing, loving, strong (and all the positive attributes that can only come from knowing Christ) man, then fathers you have to be that man.
Fathers are the meters by which their daughters measure men. If the meter they are using is not calibrated correctly then those measurements will be off. If fathers do not set good examples of how to show love, how the be gentle, strong, care for their family…then what will their daughters choose?
And so today we pray for:
fathers to be the men they hope their daughters will marry.
We pray that:
fathers turn to the example of the greatest Father in the universe
they allow Him to mold them into the fathers they can be,
the “cycle” they have set in motion for their daughters will be a cycle their daughters never want to break!