Christian Family Matters.
1 Peter 5:8 (King James Version) Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour:
The devil knows he has a short time and in his rage he is even more determined to attack those who love God. Right now, when we look at christian families we can definitely see that they are under attack. And it is not just the children he is attacking, but he starts attacking the very foundation of the christian family- christian marriages.
Let us stand up against his attacks, in the strength of God. It is only through God’s strength that we will be able to overcome.
“I am married to a wonderful guy. Our marriage is great in every way- we respect each other, our intimate life is great, we both love the Lord…But, I just don’t feel that desire for him anymore.”
If at any point in your marriage you find yourself feeling this way remember these 4 points
1) It is an attack from the devil
All of these feelings are coming to you because the devil is trying to get in to your marriage and he is using this feeling of discontentment that you are having as a way in. DON’T LET HIM GET IN! Cling to Jesus so that you can withstand the attacks on your marriage.
2) Love is a choice
Love has nothing to do with butterflies in your stomach. It has nothing to do with whether he or she is a good person or not.
Love is a choice.
We don’t love our spouses because…We love them INSPITE OF..We must choose to love our spouse each day- whether they are being kind, whether we feel those fluttery feelings or not. We choose to love them because we have God’s love in our hearts.
3) Court your spouse again
I think there comes a point in every marriage when things just seem “blah”. You are just there. Everything is ok but there are no sparks, butterflies, excitement- just the old married couple routine. Start courting your spouse again. We really should never stop courting our spouses no matter how long we have been married.
Do you remember the dating/ courting period when you couldn’t hear them soon enough?…when hours passed like minutes when you spent time talking and laughing and getting to know each other? This is how it should be- get to know your spouse again. No one stays the same, so getting to know your spouse again won’t get old. And you will be very surprised at all the things you find out!
~ send love notes
~have romantic diners- even if you have to do it at home, after the children are in bed
~plan movie nights
~call your spouse during the day
~sit and enjoy each other’s company…
~ spend time thinking about your spouse, and about how you will enjoy being with them when you see them.
These are just a few quick ideas to keep the spark alive but there are several ideas for things you can do with and for your spouse. If you need some help with ideas, a quick internet search will turn up loads of ideas.
4) Cut those “what if thoughts” as soon as they come.
Let’s face it, there will be some person that seems nicer, sexier, more thoughtful, more committed than our spouse. It might even be someone from our past…. Then the “what if thoughts” come,
What if I had gone out with Sam instead?
What if I had married Sue instead of Jane.
Don’t entertain those thoughts.
Keep your spouse’s positive characteristics before you. No one is perfect, so when you are confronted with those negative characteristics, pray about them, pray from your spouse to change, and pray for yourself that you would allow God to teach you through these things that frustrate or annoys you about your spouse. And also pray for a change in heart that you will not become annoyed, but that you will “look beyond your spouse’s faults and see their needs.”
May the Lord be with us and strengthen and bless us as we stand for our marriages!