Today, we continue our Depression Series co-hosted by Lisa fromcommunity moms.wordpress.com and myself. You can view all posts in the series so far here. Be sure to visit Lisa’s blog next Wednesday, 11 March 2015 to read another another post in this series.
In today’s post Sanjay shares with us how he supported his mother-in-law as she battled her depression.
A few years ago my mother-in-law (Margaret) was battling with depression having contemplated a few horrific events in her life growing up, her present life at the time and the recent death of her Mother. She had lost her will to live, to move and generally to ‘be’.
Tired and lethargic she carried on through her day hopeless, sad and quiet. This manifested in several ways in her physical body through aches and pains and even confusion. Her sleeping patterns were erratic at best and she felt like speaking to no one….not even to family at times.
The medication helped to some extent with the aches and pains and sleeping but I decided to go further. I spent some time with her everyday, talking and helping however I could to get her through her day. I created (through God’s strength) a consistent presence before her everyday. We prayed and listened to gospel music and she became more open over time. We read more and more of the Holy scriptures and I became a listening ear when need be when she needed to offload or vent about anything that troubled her heart.
We went to the beach and spent lots of time in nature and soon her smile was returning. I encouraged her family who were trying their best to help just to spend time with her, pray with her, reassure her and talk to her as much as they could to help her out of this dark situation.
A couple months passed and after much prayer and guidance from God she started making jokes and laughing and eating much better. She needed less and less medication as she was returning to her old self. We went for walks everyday and addressed all and any feelings that she had concerning what lead to her condition. It was clear the God was doing a work in her and indeed she was delivered! Today she now works as a successful Realtor (Owner of her very own Real Estate business).
When I /we think back upon that time we always remember how God got her through and I really saw the importance of being your brother’s keeper. To ‘be there’ for someone goes so much further than just being present. Whether physically or in prayer we can uplift each other in the hard times and really be a supporting and therapeutic hand that ushers in the power of Christ to another when it is needed most.
Depression is never a death sentence, even though it may feel like that some days. There is light at the end of the tunnel and that light is the light of the world…and his name is Jesus Christ. When it is a safe and absolute necessity, consider the use of medication but more importantly…employ ‘Christian Counselling’ (using the word of God along with effective counselling to uplift the soul from darkness) for there is no other hope to cling to than the Hope given by the Son of God. In time of sadness and despair the bible reveals in the book of Psalm chapter 42 verse 11
Why art thou cast down, O my soul? and why art thou disquieted within me? hope thou in God: for I shall yet praise him, who is the health of my countenance, and my God.
Look to God brethren for he alone is the Great Physician.