Today, our parenting series continues with a post from Ryan. Ryan is a husband, and father who loves God and desires to serve Him. He loves working with youth and sharing God’s love to all he meets.
Calm Amid the Chaos by Ryan
Sometimes you reach a point of frustration when your kids seem to push every button imaginable and you just want to explode in a flurry of unrestrained frustration to “let it all out!” But you know that that is wrong and you are caught at the crossroads of what to do. You react out of frustration. Then moments later you feel horrible for your behavior.
Has that ever happened to you? It has happened to me too many times. Too many times I have let myself get frustrated and upset because of situations.
How do I stay calm in a state like that?
Well let me say firstly that it’s not an easy matter.
When that point is reached and you feel yourself getting frustrated, take yourself out of the situation.
We have all heard the saying “If you can’t stand the heat leave the kitchen.” Today, I want to apply that saying to how a parent can remain calm when disciplining.
Do you remember what Joseph did when he was in Egypt? Well, I tell you sometimes you just have to run like Joseph did from Potiphar’s wife. Clear your mind, pray about it and take a second to calm down.
Secondly, when you are so upset that you might say or do something you feel bad about later take a minute to consider your children. Remember that these children look up to you as their parent. Most of all, they learn more from what you do than what you say. Hence this is a major teaching lesson for them in what to do with frustration. As parents we have to ask ourselves, “Will I show them the right way by how I act in this situation?”
Staying calm in situations is not easy, but with God’s strength we can discipline our children in a calm, loving way that reflects Christ.
Don’t forget our upcoming themes:
October 2015: Raising children to be leaders
As parents we don’t want our children to follow the norms and practices of this world. We want them to think for themselves and to inspire other to do what is right.
November 2015: Parenting a strong-willed child
Parenting is Jo easy business and it often times seems ten times worse when a strong-willed child in thrown into the mix. How do parents of strong-willed children cope? What advice can we share with parents?
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