love is not ill-mannered or selfish or irritable; love does not keep a record of wrongs; (1 Corinthians 13:5 GNT)
Much that passes for acceptable behavior in our world today when tested against God’s love can been seen to be false. Individuals often use harsh words with those who disagree with them, trying to embarrass them into silence. By so doing the individual may win the argument, look good and entertaining to others around; they may even receive joyous laughter. But the bible says that love is not ill-mannered. All traces of rudeness are unacceptable to God. This is not God’s Love.
Love is not selfish or irritable. It is selfishness that causes irritability. When a person is unable to wait on the deliverance that can alone come from God they get anxious and soon fretful. This was the experience of ancient Israel. They were taken out of Egypt by God’s Almighty power but as they were called to endure hardship in the wilderness they quickly became fretful and miserable. Hardship, trials and sufferings are God’s chosen means to perfect His love in our hearts. As persons endure trials for Christ’s sake they learn dependence on God and are therefore drawn closer to God as they see He mercy in keeping them in or from trial.
When individuals have the abiding Love of God in their hearts there is no record keeping of wrongs. It really doesn’t matter since God is taking care of the individual and selfishness has given way to God’s love. God’s love is the opposite of selfishness. Agape is all for the other Love. God delights in giving and as a direct result He cannot but give and do His best at all times for His creatures good or bad. An individual’s choices determine the degree to which God can work to deepen His Love in our hearts.
And we all, who with unveiled faces contemplate the Lord’s glory, are being transformed into his image with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit. (2 Corinthians 3:18 NIV)