As parents we often misunderstand the notion of commanding our children after us. For many of us the word command evokes images of stern telling, dictating, a set of don’ts.
God commands us.
Yet when we see God, clearly pictured through the life of Christ, we don’t see a set of don’ts but, we see a life of love, compassion and hope.
When they brought the woman caught in adultery Christ didn’t list off condemnation to her. Instead He forgave. In that act of forgiveness He still commanded her after Him.
John 8:9-11 NLT
When the accusers heard this, they slipped away one by one, beginning with the oldest, until only Jesus was left in the middle of the crowd with the woman.
Then Jesus stood up again and said to the woman, “Where are your accusers? Didn’t even one of them condemn you?”
“No, Lord,” she said.
And Jesus said, “Neither do I. Go and sin no more
The life of example commands.
As parents, if we want to command our children after God, it cannot be done through force, fear or restrictions. By the influence of a dedicated life, through our example we will command our children after us.
Like a hen leads her chicks and shows them how to scratch for food, how to avoid dangers, so we as parents are to lead our children through our example. Let us command our children through our life of example.