Mommy Trust Me – I Can Do It!

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Today is the final post in our March Parenting Weekend where we looked at “Building Responsibility in Children”.  Click here to see the other posts on this topic.

Join us starting April 11 for our first post in April Parenting Weekends.


For our final post on this topic Lisa shares about allowing her children the responsibility of doing things when they ar capable.

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I could just kick myself for allowing my children more responsibility then what they are ready for. I forget that there are certain skills they must learn before moving to bigger things.

I made the mistake of allowing my kids to have too many toys at once and way too much space to play in.

After five years of parenting I decided that I want my floor, couch, coffee table, kitchen and basement free from kid’s clutter.

I just had it on one tiresome day. And we all know what those days feel like, don’t we?

I had to make some changes.

No more kids allowed or toys in basement. I boxed up 80% of all their things and put it in storage.

My six year old and five year old beg me to let them play downstairs. Angry eyes stare me down when I don’t let them.

I tell them that when they show me that they can pick up their toys in their room and put them where they belong, we will talk about having a play room in the basement.

My kids rooms are disasters, nothing is in its place, toys under bed, and clothes stuffed under dressers.

A matter of fact, my six year old son is mad at me, because I will not let him make a tent in our kitchen. He can make a tent in his room, but he has no place to set up chairs.

It’s hard to put my foot down on such silly matters. Picking up toys is so trivial in comparison to what they will want to do when they get older. Like spend a night at a friend’s, own a cell phone, go on a date, and drive the car to the store.

Our kids need to learn to be trustworthy and responsible with age appropriate responsibilities before allowing them more.. I’m reminded of this scripture.

If you are faithful in little things, you will be faithful in large ones. But if you are dishonest in little things, you won’t be honest with greater responsibilities. Luke 16:10 (NLT)

My five year old Kaylee girl loves working with Mommy in the Kitchen. We wash dishes together, make peanut butter sandwiches and cookies. She sets up our table for family meal time. She is wonderful to work with.

But sometimes she wants more things to do that she is not ready for. Like make pancakes on the grill without moms help, take cookies out of hot stove, cut with meat knife instead of butter knife. I say no and she says, “Mommy I Can Do It.”

Yes Kaylee you can do it someday, but first you get to…..

Mix the batter and pour it in the muffin pan. Mix the milk into the pudding. Pick apples for apple pie. When you have success over these things Kaylee, I will allow you, to mix butter in a hot pot of noodles or mash butter in hot potatoes with my help.

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Justin at age six is ready to shoot a bear. He asks Daddy to take him hunting all the time. Daddy explains, first let’s learn to fish and follow directions. He takes him on little hikes to hunt for animal tracks. Together they sneak quietly through the woods looking at tree marks and discovering bones from dead deer’s. Eventually his Daddy will teach him how to hold a gun that is unloaded. But for now he is learning how to hold and aim a toy bow and arrow.

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Our children need to be reminded from time to time to slow down and do well with what is right in front of them.

Even I need to be reminded as a writer to take one step at a time and enjoy the process. There are many things I need to learn about writing before my work is good enough to be published.

Maybe today you want to be promoted to something more challenging and interesting and nothing is changing for you. Let me encourage you to be faithful with where you are at now. God is teaching you and He wants to prepare you.

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The actual first words spoken from the surface of the Moon, by Buzz Aldrin on 20 July 1969 when Apollo 11 landed. Over six hours later, Neil Armstrong stepped onto the lunar surface and uttered the immortal line “That’s one small step for [a] man, one giant leap for mankind”.
As moms it’s important that we encourage our children to do well with what they have. Teach them to do well in school, to do well in taking care of their things, do well by being obedient, and do well by loving God.
We can’t give them what they want when they want it. God doesn’t give us what we want until He trusts us with more. We all need to show ourselves to be approved before we can expect to move on to bigger and better things.

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April’s Parenting Weekend topic:

“Setting Boundaries vs Stifling Individuality”

To find out more about this writing opportunity please leave a comment or email Lisa at lisadesign@comcast.net

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Honey, Can We Hire Someone To Pick Up After Our Kids?

 

imageIt’s our last weekend of March, which mean this the the last weekend where we look at the topic “Building Responsibility in Children.” Be sure to check our all the posts on this topic. Starting 11 April 2015, we will be looking at the topic “Setting Boundaries vs Stiffling Individuality”

Today in our post, our co-host Lisa from Me Too Moments for Moms, shares about how they teach their children to be responsible in doing chores and in helping in general. There are loads of information that is shared here.


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Sometimes I just want to give up and pay someone to follow my kids around all day and pick up their stuff. But I don’t, I want my kids to be responsible and do it themselves.

It takes practice and self-realization to be responsible. It’s my job as a parent to guide my children through life showing them and providing them opportunities that will challenge them to make good choices and do great things.

“The price of greatness is responsibility.” – Winston Churchill

It’s in the everyday things we do that teach us who we are. We learn what motivates us, what we are good at, what we need to work on, and what we inspire to change.

“Character provides the foundation of spiritual and moral strength that rule our decisions, commitments, and faithfulness.” Sally Clarkson from Own Your Life pg. 163

Justin, my six year old son doesn’t like chores but, he does it anyway because we don’t let him move on to what he wants to do until he does. He will find the least resistant way to accomplish a task. He is too busy creating adventures in his head. Not a bad thing. Quit admirable to be an inventor with great imagination. The problem Justin runs into is that he never knows where anything is.

Work hard and don’t be lazy is a character trait that I would like to see Justin grow into.

“Poor is he who works with a negligent hand, But the hand of the diligent makes rich.” Proverbs 10:4

Kaylee, my five year old is an organizer. Loves to help and finds great value in doing things around the house. Her philosophy is that you help me and I will help you. She often sings, “The more we work together the happier we will be.” She doesn’t want to pick up after herself, but she will pick up after everyone else. She wants to be appreciated and gets upset when not acknowledged. Kaylee threatens us often that if we don’t help her, she won’t help us.

I would like to help Kaylee serve with a joyful heart with no conditions attached.

We are here to serve one another. Jesus has said, “Even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a ransom for many.” Mark 10:45.

For a few months I opened up a kid’s toy store in our basement. I bought items all under $10.00 and I re-priced them to be less. They earned money to buy things on Wednesdays after 3:00 pm.

Earning money meant doing extra work. Justin didn’t like work and Kaylee did. It took my son weeks to earn money to buy. His sister never missed a week.

When they went to the store they were asked to tithe a portion to God from their income. They saved their coins in a glass jar. Justin liked this idea. Kaylee wasn’t crazy about it.

I provided the store and extra house work in hopes that both kids would begin to understand the importance of earning money and giving God a portion of it.

There are so many ideas about how to encourage kids to do chores and be responsible. What works for one family or child does not always work for the other.

I expect my kids to clean up so they learn to care about their things, themselves and others.

Instead of yelling, I try to make clean up fun. Sometimes we play music, sing pick up songs, have races, help each other, and I usually have something fun for them to do after they are done. Like tea and cookie time, a fun family show, or an outing.

I help my kids clean up by sorting their things in piles for them to put away, or giving them one task at a time, and we pick up three to four times a day so things don’t get overwhelming.

It’s frustrating when our kids don’t want to cooperate. At times it seems easier to just do it for them. But, in the long run it’s best that they learn to do it. They are so proud of themselves when they do!!!!

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My kids don’t always listen and they ignore me. They create their own clutter. I sometimes resort to yelling, bribing, threatening, and complaining. But, this is not the kind of mom I want to be. I take several time-outs per day and pray extra hard for patience.

Parenting is difficult at times and together we must remember that anything worth doing is hard work!

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April’s Parenting Weekend topic:

“Setting Boundaries vs Stifling Individuality”

To find out more about this writing opportunity please leave a comment or email Lisa at lisadesign@comcast.net

 

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Wait For the Lord

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I am not in any position to tell anyone how depression works. I don’t know how depression works. I just know I was healed from it. The Lord knew I was hurting, even when no one acknowledged my pain, He did. I mattered to Him and His love healed me. He knows my name.

I was twenty three years old with two babies two years apart. How blessed was I! Except I felt anything but blessed, I honestly felt cursed. My babies were planned, I wanted this. At least I thought I did.

I would confess my desperation to anyone who would listen. Not because I meant to or even wanted to, but because I was so filled with despair that it would just spill out of my mouth. Fortunately typing requires more thought, otherwise all of social media would have known my secret.

My mother was in remission from breast cancer and my sister had just had a miscarriage. My depression seemed like a joke in comparison, even to myself. Stories I would share about my daily life were always considered humorous, I was told “Ha-ha. Oh Lauren, you did this to yourself”.

To read the ret of the story click here

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Hold Me Close

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